from Rev. Bruce Wood - August 2016
in News First — our monthly church newsletter
we make mistakes, and when we do, we see the best and the worst of the people
around us. We may become the target of words that are very pushy and
demanding - or maybe we hear words that are helpful and supportive.
can be riveting, and encouraging, and enchanting - and - they can also be
threatening, and intimidating, and menacing. They can bring us together -
and just as easily, they can break us apart. They can protect us against
violence - and just as easily, they can provoke hostility. They can forge
strong connections - and just as easily, they can tear relationships apart.
most of us, words are one of the fundamental ways in which we communicate with
other people - and to some extent, we become the words that we speak. They
are essential to our person - something we all have, and something we can use in
whichever way we choose.
the past few years some have shifted away from having in-person conversations,
to using email, or Face book, or Twitter as our primary means of communication.
But somewhere in that shift, we seem to have lost the significance, and the
meaning, to many of our words.
sure that we have all sent emails that have upset other people - and have
received them as well - and I’m reasonably sure that if we’d have had a
direct conversation with that person, then there would not have been so much of
a problem. However, it is much harder to convey emotions and intentions
with written words on a screen, than it is sitting opposite someone and being
engaged in a conversation.
with any communication, when words are misunderstood, or mistranslated there can
be a deal of confusion, or angst created.
example, apparently skiers - and their ski-boots - were making lots of noise
after hours in an Austrian hotel, so the proprietors posted a sign which asked
people - "Not to perambulate the corridors in the hours of repose in the
boots of ascension”. Or in a hotel in Athens a sign instructed -
“Visitors are expected to complain at the office between the hours of 9am and
11 am. daily”. And an advertisement for a Hong Kong dentist proposed
that - "Teeth extracted by the latest Methodists".
Christian speak, Jesus is known as the Word - ‘In the beginning was the Word,
and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. The Word became flesh and
lived among us, full of grace and truth.’
his ministry, Jesus put himself on the line day after day after day - his every
word and his every action was dissected and analysed by the religious leaders of
his day. He was under scrutiny everywhere he went - but he also had plenty
one occasion a large crowd was following him, and so he stopped to teach them,
and was targeted with severe criticism for doing so. His response was not
to defend his comments, or to take offence, or to go off in a huff - instead he
chose to state his case. He suggested that those who criticised him, could
be recognised by their fruit - they would be known by their actions, and the
quality of their work and their relationships. Jesus suggested, that the
mouth speaks, what the heart is full of.
way we treat each other plays a vital part of our faith community - how we speak
to each other, and what we say, become important to the whole of our community.
time we speak we have the possibility of changing the life of the person we are
speaking to. Do we use our words wisely? Do they tear down - rather
than build up? Are they bitter, and harsh, and unforgiving - or do they
foster respect, and grace, and compassion?
Desmond Tutu once uttered these wise words:
raise your voice, improve your argument”.
gentle with your words, and mindful of the long lasting effect they can have on
those around you.
Peace, Rev. Bruce Wood